Was requested to post a comment to 3sa's blog entry (http://conspirito.blogspot.com/) Here are some of my thoughts on the same issue.
IDEAL vs REALITY
As Pastor Ed preached on the matter of REST at the first sermon of 2005, I recognised what Paul meant when speaking about being unequally yoked. I drew a sketch and showed my sisters... drew an Egg... then... drew 2 water Buffaloes. Let me explain:
The Egg... its a Jyoke.
The 2 Water Buffys... they share the same yoke. But in my masterpiece, one was a normal looking Buffy, while the other at its side... it's a scrawny, diseased, Malnourished Ox. Farmer behind but the whole ensemble was moving in a circle on the field. Need I elaborate?
Heart of the Farmer
1. Loves both Buffys equally.
2. Wants to see the work done.
How?
May I suggest a couple of solutions.
Solution A.
Take the yoke off the sickly Ox. Feed it, tend to it and bring it to health. Meanwhile, strong ox gladly does all the work (best for its partner).
Solution B.
Take 300g of salt, stir into a pot of boiling water. Add food coloring... opps... wrong type of solution. I digress.
Farmer follows the pace of the weaker Ox, teaching the stronger Ox to slow down and wait till the weak Ox is healthy again.
Implications of the actions taken:
- The weak Ox has to be brought to health in order to fully serve the farmer.
- The stronger Ox has an added burden.
(as compared to working alone all this while)
- The farmer's work is delayed.
Conclusion?
I will leave it to you to come to a conclusion.
IGNORANCE vs TRUTH
Everybody has that idealic preconception that couples must be totally honest to each other. Well I say... me too, after all that is the ideal.
But I believe that trust can be built in the absence of such a statute/requirement. For to be completely honest is to hold no personal secrets from my partner, something I can be comfortable about when a stable loving relationship is established. Let me qualify my statements.
A right time
I will volunteer personal secrets, only on 2 occasions.
1st.) The situation call for it (never given in spite) : Immediate exposure.
2nd.) Its asked of from me : Depends on the 1st rule stated above. If I feel that the time is not right for such secrets to be revealed then I will have to delay. My prayer is that my partner will understand that I need this space and to trust me that I will tell her when the time is right.
Ha! You ask me when is the right time? Then it will depend on the depth of the relationship you have with God. Why? Cos he already knows your secrets and he knows the secrets of your partner. Who else will know better when its time for 2 secret worlds to meet.
LOVE: FEELING or DECISION
"Its a Decision to follow a feeling, a feeling to follow a Decision."
BOTH & NEITHER
BOTH?
Its a result of a summation of both factors.
NEITHER?
Because the result is not any of the above.
IT IS A COMMITMENT to apply both for the sake of both.
Hahahaha....
A couple of questions to boggle our minds with.
1. Can you love a person that you do not love?
2. In a world of free choice, what is the decision to love based on?
3. Could the feeling of love be based on an actual rational reason/s?
4. Will you choose not to love a person you love?
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